26.10.2025

Now that my other thoughts are written down, I want to talk about something else. Cruelty.

I am not hateful, but I am strict with others and myself regarding one issue: kindness. My main objective is always to protect those that cannot protect themselves or are the most vulnerable - even if it creates issues for myself. (which it has in real life)

There are two versions of me: The one arguing with people, because they are mistreating someone more vulnerable and the quiet one just taking someone's shit and letting them seemingly walk all over me, because they seem more vulnerable to me then myself. There are very rarely cases in between.

I try to listen to people, if they have different views in a situation, which is honestly not really easy if it's a completely opposing opinion that is based on different morals.

In my opinion a lot of people don't understand what true kindness is anymore. They believe that every criticism is done to hurt them and consider my strictness as cruelty, but in the same breath call me a doormat, because I am not criticizing someone, they deem annoying. If it doesn't benefit them personally, it is not right.

I'll take the woman that got pushed out of the women's only cart as an example here.

To sum it up: There was apparently a football game and when it finished a lot of people were trying to board the train. The train company decided that it would be safer for the other carts, if they opened up the women's only cart to men as well, so the carts wouldn't be to overfilled.

The men tried to enter the cart and a woman pulled the emergency brake and tried to get them to leave. After a lot of back and forth two woman pushed the woman out of the train and the men entered.

There are several things one could critique here.

Why did the company let the men enter in the women's only cart? Does their security end just because a bunch of football fans don't want to wait for the next train? Why didn't they tell the woman in the other carts to move to the women's only cart, so it didn't need to be opened to men in the first place?

Why did the woman pull the emergency brake? That is illegal. She was also holding up the train and nobody could leave, because of her. She was the only one arguing over the company's decision. Why didn't she just take a taxi, if she wasn't happy with their decision?

Why couldn't the men wait for the next train? Why couldn't they choose a different entrance to the cart? Why didn't the football fans coordinate more on how to get home and take trains at different times or even taxis?

Some of these solutions will be so farfetched to a lot of people. The football fans are the majority and she was only one woman, so she should make space for all of them. Why didn't she get off the train and wait for the next one, the football fans don't have to cater to her - even the train company said so by opening up the cart for men.

In this specific scenario the most vulnerable person is that one woman pulling the emergency brake. It's completely irrelevant if she was in the wrong here. She could have gotten arrested for her actions, sure, but that is not what happened here. She could have chosen to be kind and put the others needs before hers, but she didn't.

Equally the football fans could have decided to be kind as well and wait for the next train, which they didn't.

Everyone here chose themselves first and it ended in cruelty.

The woman could have good reasons for her actions. It was dark. She maybe had bad experiences in the train with men. Maybe those men were drunk. Maybe she's just a bitch. Whatever her reasons were, it doesn't really matter. When I saw how those two women pushed her out the cart, I just felt bad for her. Just because no one shared the same viewpoint as her, she got treated like a worthless piece of trash.

If I stood there and she wouldn't allow me entrance, I wouldn't have argued with her. I was at an event that went late into the night. I'm there with friends and have company until the next train arrives. That woman obviously has some issues. I am not the vulnerable one here, so why would I choose myself over her? It just goes against anything I believe in.

It seems that people don't see treatment like that as cruelty, because the majority is happy about their decision to treat the person that way. They are annoyed by her actions and think it's reasonable to be mean to her because of it.

But kindness is always a choice, you just don't want to see it, because it would inconvenience you.

sdenden, 00:06